Thursday, January 3, 2019

Raising A GENERATION With Respect For The Word NO!

Even as infants, we don't like the word NO.  

I was not offered any monetary copensation by posting my honest opinions about this issue I am seeing in the generation we are raising currently as parents.

When babies are crawling and exploring homes with their new found freedom, parents begin teaching their kids about BOUNDARIES.  What is safe for them and what could cause them harm.  A simple word...NO is often expressed to teach the child that whatever they are touching, pulling up on, putting in their mouth, etc. might be hurtful to them and we are removing them from the situation and clearly expressing that it is NOT OKAY.

So why then, is it hard, the older they get...to continue being strong with the word NO?

I'm finding, as my kids are now 17, 15, 12 and 10 (with two bonus kids who are 15 and 11), that the generation we are raising right now can't handle this very simple, very necessary word.  My kids are coming home with stories and experiences about the kids they go to school with...who clearly have not been taught that NO means NO...

WHY?  What has changed so much in the past 20 years that parents are no longer allowed, nor do they feel safe parenting with this word?  I mean, come on...why are parents LIMITED on how they parent their kids?  Parents seem to be afraid to simply parent.  Or maybe we are just lazy and so self consumed by life we are not willing to put the time and effort into dealing with the repercussions of no.  I completely understand about physically not harming your child.  PHYSICAL HARM is never okay.  It is CLEARLY wrong.  But we as parents have become so sensitive ourselves.   Parents pushing our opinions on other parents and making them feel insecure about their parenting abilities.  I just don't get it.  Everyone is different.  Every parents struggles with children who have different issues, strengths and challenges. 
However, teaching our kids the word NO seems pretty universal to me?

For me...it's simple.  We have begun raising a generation of kids who will cry when they are corrected about things, feel like they need a trophy for everything, throw a fit when they don't get what they want and will not be able to handle what the REAL WORLD throws at them because they have been coddled by parents, grandparents and friends (because the parents will not allow anything else) afraid of simply parenting.  US PARENTS ARE FAILING OUR KIDS by parenting this way!  The reality is...the world we will be sending them off to is really CRUEL and HARD.  It doesn't care about hurting their feelings or making them angry.  It's a really SELFISH world we are sending them into and if we don't teach them about "NO", about not always getting what they want all the time with instant gratification, teaching them that things are not going to be handed to them and they are going to have to work for things...we are FAILING THEM BIG TIME!
My kids are going to be TREND SETTERS, I guess.  Why?  

This mom isn't afraid of the word NO!  In fact, this mom is proud to use this word and teach my kids a healthy respect for it.  My kids understand that this word...more times than not...is for their own good, and have also learned a reverent respect for it.  

WHY?  Why is this important?

From the time they are learning to crawl, walk and explore...it's our job as parents to teach them right from wrong, good from bad.  Maybe you don't agree, but as a parent to these innocent little humans...I do feel this is definitely a job requirement for parents.  Not because we are being mean, but because we are protecting them.  We are teaching them to know their space, understand rules & guidelines and to respect them, so they grow up not only being okay with constructive correction, but also with guidance.

I see too many parents now days, afraid to make their kids mad.  Afraid that their kids are going to throw a fit in public or as they reach their teen years, threaten them with law or them leaving.  WHATEVER!  Here is the real simple truth...we are their parents.  If they throw a fit in public when they are little because you've told them NO...you pick them up and leave the store.  It's that simple!  You are in CHARGE!  Head to the car, buckle them in and drive home.  On your drive home, you talk to them calmly about why you left so quickly, why you were right in telling them no and why they owe you an apology for behaving that way.  You don't lay a hand on them...you don't get in their face and yell...you simply talk to them.  

Now, understand this...I've had FIT THROWERS.  I've had kids who kick, scream and take a long time to calm down from their selfish rage.  But guess what, they eventually calm down and will listen to you talking rationally to them.  They will respond well to you speaking to them in a calm tone and explaining why you gave them the answer you did.  


Even as teenagers it works.  Parents are always wrong in teens eyes...because "we don't understand how they feel."  Little do they know that it doesn't feel like that long ago that we were the teens being parented & told NO by our parents.  A little patience, respect of their need to release whatever feelings they have and then a stern STICK TO YOUR GUNS explanation about why you, as a parent, not only have the right...but the responsibility to tell them NO.  It's totally okay, in fact necessary that we tell them NO!  No...you can't go out tonight!  No, I am not buying you more jeans just because they are on sale (when they already have 20 pairs in their closet).  No...NO...NOOOOO!   It's also healthy at this age to reinforce their right to say NO.  To teach them not only that but to respect it when they hear their friends, girlfriend/boyfriends, etc. say NO.  If we don't teach them this...it will cause major issues in dating and relationships as they grow up, because no one will feel the right to stop someone from hurting them.  This is not okay!  
Our kids always have a right to say NO!  
NO MATTER WHAT...No means NO!


It's okay moms and dads!  Your kids are not going to be scarred for life because they are hearing this word.  In fact, they are actually going to be all the better for you being willing to actually give them healthy guidelines, some stern reinforcement that they are not always right and don't always know the best thing for themselves, etc.  GOD MADE YOU THE PARENT and them the child.  They are learning from you, growing in habits and understanding of your example.  When you are told NO by life...because you don't get that new job you interviewed for.  When you're told NO by life, because your finances are tight and you simply can't take that vacation you want to, because toilet paper and groceries are more important and necessary.  When you're told NO by whatever life throws at you...your kids are watching how you respond to it.  Show them that it's okay to be upset or even bummed about it.  But it's okay, because you grow from things that don't go your way all the time.  It's character building.  It's healthy and important to be okay with NO and to know how to cope when you don't always get the YES you're hoping for.  

If we don't teach them...the WORLD is going to...and trust me, the world isn't going to care about their crying, their fit throwing, their hurt feelings and their sad sob stories.  Instead, the world is still going to rotate and life is going to go on.  And we are going to be dealing with adult children who just simply can't cope with life, because we never taught them a respect for the word NO.  And I'm sorry MOM AND DAD...it will be all our fault for not teaching them from birth on...a healthy respect for NO!
This is just my two cents!  You can take it or leave it!  
But just understand that you won't be able to blame anyone but yourself in the end...when the generation we are raising never move away from home, can't keep a steady job, are not able to cope with relationships and just simply can't deal with LIFE IN GENERAL...because they were never taught to understand, embrace and appreciate a healthy NO every once in awhile.

I was not paid to feature this post!  I was not compensated in any way by posting about my honest feelings on this parenting topic.

Saturday, December 15, 2018

An INCREDIBLE Evening In Pasadena at @LythgoePanto #WONDERFULWINTEROFOZ

OH...the CHRISTMAS SEASON has arrived and it makes me so happy inside!  
I just turn into a big kid this time of the year!  
I love all the lights, the music and the way the world just tends to get a little nicer around this time of the year.  
It all just makes my heart happy!  



I was not paid to feature this post!  Our family was provided six complimentary tickets to attend this opening event in return for an honest review/feature of the show.

Along with the Christmas SEASON comes traditions for our family.  
A new one we started last year, that I hope to never stop...is attending the OPENING NIGHT for Lythgoe Family Panto's holiday shows.  
A show that takes classic stories and fairy tales and mixes them with pop culture and music. 
THIS YEAR...the show is "THE WONDERFUL WINTER OF OZ"...an adaptation of the regular story...only there is a blizzard and a few other twists to bring to life a magical CHRISTMAS time story.
So yesterday after school, we hopped in the car (all dapper and dressed) and headed to Pasadena (there was quite a bit of traffic between here and there) and managed to make it in time to grab a quick bite to eat before the show.  
We got our tickets...took a few pictures (as the celebs took pictures on the RED CARPET)...and headed inside to our seats to watch the magic come to life on the stage.  Oh...and my youngest had to get his face painted too (another tradition for this show)
A few things about this type of show:
  THEY ARE FAMILY FRIENDLY SHOWS!  
Kids are welcome in the audience, in fact they are requested!  
SO THE THEATER is full of giggles, sometimes crying, and lots of kids just having a great time!  Why?  
This show involves audience participation (cheering and booing), singing at times and songs that everyone will recognize.  
Oh...and the music is done by a live orchestra too!  
It's an absolute blast for all ages! 
Because of the nature of these shows, no cameras are allowed (it's forbidden)...so I didn't get to snap any photos of the actual show taking place...but TRUST ME...it was SO MUCH FUN!  
The performance is CELEBRITY packed too!  
Kermit the Frog (I'm not joking...the actual KERMIT) as OZ, Marissa Jaret Winokur (Glinda), Mackenzie Ziegler (Dorothy), Juan Pablo Di Pace (Lion), Jared Gertner (Curly/Scarecrow), Yvette Gonzalez-Nacer (Aunt Em/Wicked Witch) and Phil Lamarr (Tin Woodman) to name a few.
As we headed back to our car, for our (much quicker...THANKS LA) drive home last night, we chatted about all the things we loved about the show.  
Hearing Kermit sing "THE RAINBOW CONNECTION", the girls getting to meet Mackenzie Ziegler (who they loved on Dance Moms) in person, and just how much we love coming every year!  It's amazing, but even if there is fighting amongst my kids...or even bad attitudes (there may have been some of that last night)...by the end of the night, this show brings back some joy and cheer to us all.  It really leaves you feeling good inside!
If you live in the So. Cal area and are looking for something fun to do with your kids this Christmas Season...I highly INSIST that you take your kids to one of these performances.  
You have to act fast...the show is only being performed for a limited time (CLICK HERE to check the dates)! 
CLICK HERE to learn more about this year's "WONDERFUL WINTER OF OZ" performance and to buy yourself some tickets so you don't miss out and you get to start a new CHRISTMAS tradition with your family during the holidays too!

I was not paid to feature this post!  The tickets were provided free of charge for me writing this review/feature of the show.  No other compensation was exchanged.

Friday, December 7, 2018

Classy Consignment And DESIGNER Brands For Less - @LemonTreeGoods

A few things about me:
I LOVE DESIGNER JEANS!
I LOVE DESIGNER HANDBAGS!
I LOVE DESIGNER JEWELRY too!
Sadly, I simply do not have the budget for such things!  Unless I find a consignment boutique that carries these amazing items in their store...for so much less than BRAND NEW would cost.

All products for this review/feature were sent free of charge by the company.  I was not offered any monetary compensation in return for this review/feature/collaboration.
Finding a consignment store that carries these types of goods are hard to come by.  But I found one that not only I am totally head over heels for...but my teenage daughter wants just about everything in their store as well.  
GOOD THING they are located in Natick, Massachusetts and we are in So. Cal (which means we can only shop online), or we'd be dropping in there to shop & drool (in person) all the time!
Lemon Tree Goods sent me a few things from their GIFT section of their website.  
Their gift stuff isn't consignment...it's all brand new...and it's trendy and super adorable too!  SCORE...a store that carries consignment and cute NEW goodies too...how can you even go wrong?
I received two very cute tees!  
Both are sorta retro, sorta rock in roll and super cute!  
Both tees fit amazing on my curves and are definitely something I'll be sporting under hoodies in the winter and around town in the summer.
As someone who hopes to actually visit PARIS one day, both of these pieces brought an instant smile to my face.  Not only will I wear these to accent cute outfits, but also these would make incredible stocking stuffers.  Plus, maybe one day, I'll be wearing my bracelet and necklace and be standing in those exact coordinates!  FINGERS CROSSED!
Finally, we received some of their PINCH ME THERAPY dough.  
When I was working in PR for Kaiser Permanente, many years ago, we used play dough as a way of helping us concentrate as we brainstormed ideas for events.  This dough would have been so much better though...it smells great...it's soft and pliable and leaves a lasting scent on your hands when you're done.  All the scents are pleasant and thought provoking too.  I LOVE THIS!!  


While I didn't receive a LV or Chanel handbag...I was extremely excited about the amazing GIFTS they offer that are brand new...while I can plan and save for my next purchase from them...which could be one of these awesome consignment DESIGNER purchases!

ARE YOU IN THE MARKET FOR A FABULOUS Designer Purse that is more affordable than buying it brand new?  You have to check out Lemon Tree Goods online store and get your credit card ready for purchase.  You may need a bib...with all the drooling that will take place, as you scan through their selection!  TRUST ME!  

CLICK HERE to check it all out!

I was not paid to feature this post!  I was compensated only by the products sent for this review/feature!

Monday, December 3, 2018

STOCKING STUFFER ALERT - @Colgate 360 Advanced Whitening Battery Powered ToothBrush

TEETH CLEANING...maybe it's not something you'd think of to buy for your kid's stockings.  But it definitely is for me. 

All products for this review/feature were sent free of charge by Colgate Palmolive for this review/feature.  I was not offered any monetary compensation by posting my honest opinion about this product.
 I mean, who wouldn't want the gift of a BRIGHTER, WHITER smile this Christmas...with something as simple as a toothbrush...plus sonic vibrations of 20,000 strokes/minute.
Colgate has introduced their newest brushing technology.   THE 360 Advanced Whitening Battery Powered Toothbrush.  
I LOVE IT!  
Not only is this an easy to use, soft bristle toothbrush...but it's also affordable for a toothbrush of this type.  
It has a two minute timer...so you make sure to brush the suggested amount of brushing time.  
It has a replaceable head (which I LOVE a lot), so you can just replace it when it's time...and you don't have to buy a whole new toothbrush.  And it comes with the batteries, so you can start brushing as soon as you open it up!  It is slim, lightweight and easy to control.  Plus, it removes 5x's the plaque along the gumlines vs. a regular manual toothbrush.

This COLGATE 360 Advanced Whitening Battery Powered Toothbrush is being sold at Walmart and on Amazon.com.  

CLICK HERE to order from Walmart!
CLICK HERE to order from Amazon!

I was not paid to feature this post!  I was compensated only by the product sent for this review/feature from Colgate Palmolive.

Thursday, November 29, 2018

@Amazon & ALEXA & @ToysForTots - Is #DeliveringSmiles THIS CHRISTMAS SEASON

Tis' the Season to be CHARITABLE!!
Or I at least think so!  Especially if we are blessed more than most this year!
And some of us are...
It's the holidays and gift giving is my absolute favorite.  
I love picking out presents, handing out gifts and especially giving to people who may not be quite as fortunate as my family is during the holidays.

I was not offered any monetary compensation by posting about this cause. I will be receiving an Alexa Echo Show for posting about this toys for tots drive.  
This post is sponsored by product from Amazon.com

I had to share with you guys, so you can participate and help spread the word too.

On #GIVINGTUESDAY Amazon & Alexa launched "ALEXA, donate to Toys for Tots".  
This is the first time that customers can donate a product to a charity via voice shopping and better yet, Amazon will be matching customer donations throughout the end of the year – toy for toy – doubling customers’ contributions!
HOW AWESOME IS THAT?
I love the ease of giving (and the comfort of knowing it's going to a reputable cause) and also the fact that they are matching the gifts (toy for toy), to basically double the donations.  
What a blessing!

You may be wondering:

Can I choose which gift I want to donate to Toys for Tots?
Alexa pre-selects an item from the Toys for Tots Charity List and tells you the price of the item before confirming your donation. However, if you want to choose among other items, see the Toys for Tots full Charity List at smile.amazon.com/toysfortots.
Wait...you don't have an Alexa enabled product in your home?  
Amazon can get you set up with one super easy and quickly.  
CLICK HERE to order one for your family. 

So do me a quick favor...now that you're done reading this post!  Shout, "ALEXA, donate to Toys for Tots!" and help Amazon & Alexa with #deliveringsmiles in 2018.

I was not paid to feature this post!  I will be compensated by receiving an Alexa Echo Show because I am sharing with my readers about this cause.

Tuesday, November 27, 2018

What's That Smell? - FAMILY FUN Or PARTY FUN from @Wowwee

We love playing games as a family!  
Some of us love playing games more than others...but traditionally, we have several games, we all love to play together.

All products for this review/feature were sent free of charge by the company.  I was not offered any monetary compensation by posting my honest opinion about this product.

So when I heard about WowWee's newest game  "What's That Smell"(I honestly didn't even know that they made games...because we love all of their electronic/robotic toys), I was so excited to add this to our game rotation.  
In fact, this is the perfect gift for one of our kiddos this year for Christmas.


This game is SMELLY GOOD "Hysterical" FUN!  
Watch this video to check out all the action!
And since there are 8 of us in the family, it's a party every time we play a game, even if only six of us can play at a time!  This game plays 2-6 players!
This game comes loaded with 48 smells to boggle the senses
Best of all, you get to "GIFT" the loser of the game with one of four of the WORST SMELLS of all.  It kind of reminds me of the Jellybean Game that everyone was playing a few years ago, with all the horrible flavors.  
EVERYONE LOVED THAT too!
CLICK HERE to learn more about this game and maybe consider purchasing it for a love one (friend or family) that's a gamer or may enjoy a gross round of "What's that Smell".  
It's guaranteed to bring some laughter and fun into your homes too!
We can't wait to play "What's That Smell"...in fact, maybe it's one of the party games we will bust out on NEW YEAR'S EVE to play!

I was not paid to feature this post!  I was compensated only by the game sent for this review/feature!  

Thursday, November 22, 2018

A Fun SO CAL Way To Celebrate The Holidays - #Holidaybythebay @hiltonbayfront

It's that time of the year, when CHRISTMAS IS IN THE AIR...everywhere!  
Decorations and lights, music and the spirit of giving...I love everything about Christmas.

I was not paid to feature this post!  We were offered free admission to this event in return for me writing an honest review/feature about our experience at the event.
I especially love taking my kids to do new things and experience celebrating the holidays in new ways.  
Last night was no exception... 
We hopped in the car and headed to San Diego to the Hilton right on the Bay.  We found a parking spot in the parking garage and headed to the hotel.
The hotel is decked out for the holidays.   
They have a giant "REAL" gingerbread house in the lobby as you enter.  
The kids were pretty amazed by it all!
Then we headed down to the Bay...where the fun was about to take place. 
And heck, the view wasn't half bad either.  
I just love San Diego!




We checked in...got our wrist bands, took a few pictures on the red carpet, enjoyed a complimentary beverage while we waited (hot apple cider) and patiently waited for the fun to begin.  Oh yeah, there was a huge list of VIP Red Carpet attenders too.  Actors and actresses from all sorts of television shows.  My kids were honored to be among them.



Once the gates opened, they were off.  
First stop was the Ice Bumpers...which were so much fun!





Then we headed to ICE TUBE down the ice tubing slide.  
Even I had to give that a try!  It was so much fun!  
You slip slide right down the hill, twirling and giggling as you go.  
It's so much fun!  This is the closest thing us SO CAL people get to "snow sledding".





 
We headed inside for the kids to play in the ball pit (it was their first time ever in one of those) and write letters to the USO for Christmas$1 from every ticket goes to the USO San Diego.
Then they mailed them off in the giant mailbox.

Then we took a moment to enjoy a nice warm fire and some comfy sitting...at the Yule Lodge.  We may have indulged in a treat or two as well.

 


This wasn't all the fun to be had...there is also a BUCKING Reindeer, you can decorate Christmas Cookies and Paint Christmas Stockings, indulge in some holiday snacks, treats and drinks...and so much more.  
Plus, there is an hourly light show and a Christmas Tree lighting.
If you're in the San Diego Area and you're looking for something fun to do with the kids this HOLIDAY SEASON, I highly recommend you head to the Hilton on the Bay and experience "HOLIDAY BY THE BAY" with your family too!

By the way, CLICK HERE if you need to sell your car quickly, even if it's a JUNK CAR!

I was not paid to feature this post!  I was compensated only by complimentary tickets for us to attend this event.